Forgiveness

How could one forgive if she can't forget? In my constant search for closure, I've begun to come to the conclusion that I do not need to forgive someone in order to forgive myself for trusting them and for loving them. Forgiveness doesn't come easy. I realize now that I have a hard time forgiving someone who has not acknowledged the pain he inflicted on me. I can heal and forget the past if the other person apologizes and acknowledges the way he treated me in the past. I can live with that. But I hate arrogance! I am not ready to forgive those who gave me pain, made me suffer and yet blamed it all on me. Understanding, emphaty and kindness is all I ask for. Is it too much to ask?

I guess not many people are able to do that. No wonder why my blog name is Utopia?!